Tuesday, May 31, 2011

Stop before you start...

 Strife is a word I understand in the bible to mean everything from angry, bitter disappointment to all out war. The bible tells us all about strife. Strife robs us of our blessings, it takes away the anointing, it hinders, robs, destroys relationships and allows the enemy footholds in our lives. I guess I never really thought of strife as a silent killer, a killer of relationships within families, marriages, workplaces, and the churches. It comes in many forms... frictiondiscorddisagreementdissensiondispute,argumentquarrelingwranglingbickeringcontroversyill/bad feelingfalling-outbad bloodhostilityanimosity, and conflict. 
A weapon of mass destruction...strife. I have been reading about relationships and how to avoid the enemy pitfalls when tensions get high and people get frustrated. It is very difficult for many, including me to see that giving in, is stopping the strife.  If only I had realized this before. If you don't allow yourself to get sucked in to the "I am right" or "I have to win" or  " I know what is best" then strife will never have a secure hold. Strife is never positive, and it is most often fuelled by our pride. Yep it is out, I said the "p" word. Pride is the cause of so many small disagreements that end up becoming these huge mountains that have resulted in divorce, children hating their parents, grown siblings never talking to each other, and families robbed of many years together. Like the famous Hadfields and McCoys song, so many years went by everyone had forgotten why the families had started fighting and quit talking to each other in the first place.
 It sounds crazy like when you put it into words, but just think, I bet each of us can think of an instance when we allowed pride to make a decision in our lives in regards to a relationship.

Proverbs 17:14
New International Version (NIV)

 14 Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam;
   so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.

I love this, breaching a dam, brings visions of Niagara Falls, or the levy going out in Louisiana, and all I can think of is the force of the water. The same force is the strength of how words can hurt.

To all those that I may have quarrelled with and never went back to right those situations to those that have been hurt by my words I am extremely sorry. I pray that God will hear my humble prayer, so that anything old that I can't remember will not rob my blessing, interfere with my anointing to go into all the world. What an incredible teacher the bible is, overtime I read things and each time different passages stick to me.

Today I am learning about strife, trying to understand the power of strife. There is no one at this time that I feel I have wronged, nor am I involved in any dispute. I love my family and even my kids like me, so please don't read between the lines. I am thankful that I like to be proactive and work on solutions before I am up against tough decisions. If I need counsel, I have time to pray and I have a great support team of friends and elders. I have been so blessed to be able to write and share what I learn with you. Hope you take time to ponder the thoughts and pray for your families, church and workplaces. Don't let the enemy destroy the unity that God anoints into our families, marriages and churches.!

Hmmm.....A blog on protecting unity maybe next.

Thursday, May 26, 2011

Considering our worth....

What am I worth? What in life is worth living for? What in life is worth dying for? Would I consider the costs of stepping out if I thought there was no gain? Would God really call someone with a heart for the people but few skills? Would I ever really know the worth I was to people?

Recently I attended a fundraiser for a friend who has cancer and has added medical expenses. It may be difficult to ask for help, but honestly their funeral may be the only time people gather to celebrate. What about celebrating life while still here on earth.

What about knowing who came to your funeral, who values your friendship, who made the time to celebrate a life lived to the fullest with giving the only thing we can not take back...time.
I suppose you can say my love language is time spent. I believe that if someone wants to spend money on a gift it is very nice, but I am much happier with spending time with them. All this talk of life and dying has had me thinking.
Missions is my passion, I wish some days it would go away but God has placed such a burden that it is un mistakable, hard to ignore, impossible to forget and like the little guy that sits on my shoulder as my conscience, it is always with me.
I have a good job, an amazing husband, family, kids, house, so much more than many others in the world, but my richness comes in experience and living life. I know God is not finished with using a simple servant like me, and for that I am thankful.
I do not need to know who is going to be at my funeral, i just need to know HE is meeting me and I have the promise of everlasting life in heaven. WOW, that is priceless!

I do want to live a life worth of my heavenly father here on earth, I do want to live a life of love and mercy, respect and honour, grace and forgiveness. I can because I am, what HE is, in me. HE has given me the gift of hospitality and some would say the gift of writing (LOL) but through my writing I can reach those that I cannot invite into my home. So can I make a difference in this world? Absolutely, some of my heroes have spurred me on to be priceless, to be worthy, to make change, to think outside the box, to be remembered for something.

I am worth nothing in monetary value (that is the truth) but I am worth so much more in kingdom finance. So here's to God's economy, praying that you and I will embrace the passions He puts before us and that we are able to live a life worthy of HIS plan for us.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us most. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and famous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in all of us. And when we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Used by Nelson Mandela in his 1994 inaugural speech

"Stop determining your worth and value by what other people say. Be determined by what the Word of God (scriptures)says." "Courage is fear that has said its prayers and decided to go forward anyway."
Joyce Meyer (I Dare You: Embrace Life with Passion)

Don't you dare, for one more second, surround yourself with people who are not aware of the greatness that you are. ~Jo Blackwell-Preston

It ain't what they call you, it's what you answer to. ~W.C. Fields

If you hear a voice within you say "you cannot paint," then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced. ~Vincent Van Gogh

Amen...ready to paint the next scene in your life? 

Friday, May 20, 2011

The Power of the Holy Spirit

We have all heard amazing stories of the holy spirit's power here on earth, in miracle healings, restoration, mercy, grace and forgiveness, but his love for us is so much bigger that we can imagine and I really believe we do not always believe he can still love us some days. Have you ever felt like you are not worthy of His power, that you are not worthy of a miracle. Well STOP right now, you are! I am! and all those that call upon His name are. The only words I can think of now, come from my work with teenagers, cool, sweet, awesome, oh yeah, and Thomas the tank engine..yes I can, yes I can, and even Nemo, just keep swimming... He can and will work miracles through me. Ask, believe and receive!
2 Chronicles 7:14 If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face..then I will hear from heaven...Now that is a promise I am hanging on to. 

This last week I have been in prayer for a cousin who has been diagnosed with cancer. It is in his lung, brain and throat and the medical prognosis is sketchy, but we serve a big God, a good of miracles so I am calling on His name for a miracle. Right here and right now. 
In Thessalonians, Paul and Silas and TImothy are praying a prayer of thanks to the Thessalonian church for their faith. They speak of the power...not only in words...1 Thessalonians 1 For we know, brothers and sisters loved by God, that he has chosen you, because our gospel came to you not simply with words but also with power, with the Holy Spirit and deep conviction. 

I want to pray with conviction. I want to pray in humble belief of His miracles and I want to pray that above else God is honoured in my prayers.  Please pray that God will show up in a mighty and unexpected way for my cousin. He is 45 years old and has so much living to do yet. Lord I want to feel the touch of your powerful spirit. I want to see you touch my community and heal the sick. Lord, move in my life and in the lives of those around me. Lord show me how to pray, who to pray for, and teach me to listen to when to pray.

My prayer for each of you....that you will grab a hold of the power of prayer, the power of HIM in you. In the words of an old Francsican Benediction...and may God bless you with enough foolishness to believe that you can make a difference in this world, so that you can do what others claim cannot be done. Amen.
ps thanks Rich for the new blog banner

Monday, May 16, 2011

Safe in my daddy's arms...

When I envision the first time I held Kelsey or Nick, I remember being completely overwhelmed. Did that perfect little person come from me? How could that pain, kicking in the ribs, bloated massive belly, produce this amazing little person. I remember thinking if there is nothing else I ever do, having children is the greatest gift I have been given. For the record I still think it is amazing. Many times through their years I wondered why we were walking through the things we were, I wondered why God would allow us to hurt or to ache, to give and to take, to laugh and to celebrate all in the short time span of one day. Then it hit me, because we celebrate His creation and His spirit in us. He allows for us to grow, to learn and to seek Him, to build our faith, to see us problem solve through adversity. I wondered if it hurt Him like it hurts me when my kids go through hurt, adversity and disappointment. Yes, I figured it did.

He wants for us, what we want for our kids. Picture Him cradling us in His arms, like the proud daddy in the maternity ward. He had a tear, He had dreams, He was speechless at the incredible prefect in His sight that was before Him. I was that person, I am His and I need to remember He is cradling me in His arms all knowing that through many things He is building my faith, my confidence, my problem solving and my strength.
Say a special prayer for your kids today, send them a text and remind them how special they are and that above else you will always be their mom or dad and that you would not have it any other way.

For extra reading Psalm 139 and John 10 V 27 - 31

In my Father’s arms I am safe
In my Father’s arms there is strength
Nothing could ever come
Come between us now
I’ve heard the Father calling my name. (www.kelita.com)

Saturday, May 7, 2011

Top Things I Love About Being a Mom

Every year around Mother's day I scramble to find a poem I used to have on my bulletin board and every year I cannot find it LOL. The truth of the matter is, I could write about my great mom, or I could write about the gift Mother's are to the family. I could write about birth mothers and adoptive mothers and those friends that are not mothers, new mothers, first time mothers, good mother's, mothers to more kids than most of us, but ultimately Jussi summed it up at breakfast. "Mother's day and remembering your mom, should be more than just one day."
So today because Hallmark and the throes of nurseries (do they crank up their prices this weekend...I think it is a conspiracy) go all out, there are flowers and bushes of every kind, the jewellery stores and chocolates stores, are full of wares for sale. Every turn in the retail sector is splashes of "Mothers Day" this and that. I will write a blog on Mothers Day thoughts..
I love my mom, and I am thankful I can visit often,  was very close to my grandmothers, and was blessed to have a mother in law. One day in heaven we will all rejoice being together again, sharing and caring, and talking about all the things I never asked or said when they were here. So to all those that have lost a mother I will say a little prayer for you. Five years ago this month Jussi's mom passed away and we talk of her often, wish we could share success and failures, ask her for prayer and get advice,  but never forget what a blessing she was.
So in honour of being a mom...here are the top reasons I love being a mom...
(in no particular order, just random thoughts)
1. pregnancy was a chance to eat like a horse and eat weird things
2. when you are sad there is always a face and a story that bring a smile to your face
3. love being able to pawn off crappy jobs (luv it hey Nick)
4. luv nagging them to clean their rooms just like my mom did and knew they were stashing and didn't call them on it
5. at the beach or camping seeing the delight of shells, tidal pools and rare finds, as small children, and then seeing the respect for the beauty of our beaches as adults
6. Canada Day parades, lunch at Georges and Lewis Park....you guys made it all worthwhile
7. watching my children sing O Canada with reverence
8. knowing they believe in the power of prayer and will ask for prayer when they need it
9. being able to say "yes" instead of "no"
10. tears, chicken pox and flu bugs, broken bones, stitches (that was mostly Kelsey)
11. acceptance of all the others that came to live in our home, and the absolute pride as a momma to hear they were never resentful, and how they view people as people first...that is #1
12. being able to not see my point of view but loving me anyway
13. eating nachos every Friday night and calling it dinner
14. humoring me when I wanted to have help garden...in hindsight it was always painful wasn't it LOL
15. knowing when the car was leaving you were in it, ready or not...that was flexibility
16. being able to see the strengths and the gifts and wonder where they came from...
17. letting me go, when Haiti was calling and letting me miss concerts, special events and babies
18. sharing me with the many people in church who needed help, the many that came to stay for a short time, and those that just needed to talk in the middle of our evening
19. for understanding that I wanted to raise great kids and allowing me to make mistakes along the way
20. for not eating mushrooms cause Danielle said they were nasty, for not eating vegetarian cause Jussi said meat and potatoes was the only way to go, and at the same time eating a lot of chicken and stir fry as we made a happy medium in the house...See I told you once you moved out you could eat anything you wanted, sleep in when you wanted and stay up as late as you wanted...
But...I miss you all so much, I wish I could see my kids every weekend, I need kids, yesterday while making mashed potatoes, I gave the dog the beater to lick...yep I am getting desperate for a little kid time. Hopefully once school is done, there will be more time. Have a great day Danielle, Nick and Kelsey, because I love you and I couldn't have had better kids, I am so proud of you. All those times I screamed and ranted, all for naught I hardly remember them LOL, and I cant wait to see your adult lives unfold. It is exciting to be on this side of parenting. I can have my cake and eat it too...no more socks and wrappers in my couch but still can talk to you everyday. I love being a mom!
PS Thanks, to ...Tabitha, Corey, Carly, Tor, Michelle, and Kelsea....miss all of you for the laughs and love you brought to our home.....

More to follow, computer is acting funny.....needs more coffee?